"There was this guy I met during my final year at the University. He had just moved from Houston and didn't know a lot of people in London and after a few random conversation about course work, he asked me out. Our first date was amazing and after about a month of seeing each other a few times a week, I was almost certain he was "the one". After dancing around the issue for a week or two, I was finally brave enough to bring up the "where are we" issue.
"His exact words were, 'I really like you Tolu, but I'm not looking for a relationship right now'.
"I had to take a moment to mentally pick up the fragments of my broken heart, then I smiled at him and said 'No worries, it's okay'."
When asked what heartbreak has thought her as a woman, she said:
"I did learn a valuable lesson from this. One of the worst things you can do in life is to lie to yourself and potentially rob yourself of what you truly deserve. Whether it be a relationship, a job, whatever situation it is, do your best to be honest with yourself. If a situation isn't giving you what you need, don't fool yourself. Have enough self respect to say 'I am not getting what I want from this situation and I honestly won't be able to settle'."
"I did learn a valuable lesson from this. One of the worst things you can do in life is to lie to yourself and potentially rob yourself of what you truly deserve. Whether it be a relationship, a job, whatever situation it is, do your best to be honest with yourself. If a situation isn't giving you what you need, don't fool yourself. Have enough self respect to say 'I am not getting what I want from this situation and I honestly won't be able to settle'."